Cardinal Rule of Relationships

Thou shalt not ask for what thy can't provide...

Not that long ago, I asked my boyfriend for more communication. More communication specifically about going out. This was after an unfortunate incident where the lack of communication caused me to become very hurt and very upset (I wont repeat the incident, but lets just say... ya know, lets just say, things were not said and I took it personally).

I knew when I asked to be more informed, I would have to do the same. I was and am prepared to do so.
But what happens when what I communicated isn't enough or wasn't the requisite information.

Last night I went out with a (girl) co-worker (who has a boyfriend). We met up and had a couple of beers. I told him I was having a beer (to me, that implies out somewhere that is not my domicile). I will own that I should have been more specific, and should have clarified that I was going out with a co-worker. But I didn't. TO ME I didn't need to clarify. I was going out with a co-worker (she is someone I have mentioned repeatedly) for a couple of drinks (a couple turned into a few more than planned) and to get to know eachother outside the confines of work. Also, because we were going to a bar she works at (she works at the bar part time) and it wasn't like we were trolling for dick... well, you get it by now.

I wasn't trying to leave my boyfriend out of the loop. I wasn't trying to pull some kind of fast one on him. What I was trying to do was become friends with someone so I can have more than just work and my boyfriend in my life (not to diss my bf or my job. I love him. I love my job. But everyone needs a couple of friends who live in city they live to hang out with).

IN ALL REALITY (and you can ask my co-worker) it slipped my mind. I always tell him when I am working, when I get off work and send tons of messages detailing the shit I do during the day. And the one time I do something I don't normally do (go out with out him) I didn't tell him. I am so used to him being with me, doing things with me, this one slipped.

And there is a part of me that is very sorry for what I accidentally did.
BUT then, there is the part of me that got hurt when he left me out that is now angry at him for acting this way. I KNOW what I did was not a form of payback or some childish way to get back at him. I would never intentionally hurt him like that. I love him way too much for that. But I am sure he is looking at it like it is a childish act of retaliation. This part of me thinks its insane that (to me) he is playing both sides of the card a) he gets to be offended when I got upset the first time and b) he gets upset again now because of something I accidentally did. If I was truly being childish, I would hang onto that and use that to drive my side of the argument. But, that's not how I feel, that's not who I am and that is NOT what I want to do. I want to be adult and talk it out. Work through it.